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You Can’t Always Meet In The Middle

by Nov 8, 2021Relationships0 comments

You Can’t Always Meet In The Middle

Finding a compromise in situations, especially in a committed intimate relationship, is always a preferred approach. As Steven Covey says in 7 Habits of Highly Successful People: you must go for a win-win. Anything else is a loss. Specifically, if one party is losing, it cannot have a positive outcome – no matter how noble it may seem.

To “meet in the middle” is to find solutions that are mutually beneficial to you and your significant other.

As your life journey unfolds, you are undoubtedly learning, growing and changing. When you are in the world of spiritual awakening & evolution, the changes can be happening rapidly. The more you learn & embrace about spirituality, enlightenment, empowerment, etc. the more you desire and the further “down the rabbit hole” you go. As your awareness of the greatness that is within you expands, the more excited you are to see what else can unfold for you.

If your significant other is not sharing the journey of enlightenment with you, they may be either staying where they are, or evolving on a different path than you. And this is perfect. Everyone has a distinct journey and must follow the path that is right for them. It is not possible for any two people to share an identical journey, no matter how in sync they actually are.

At some point, you may come to realize that you are in different spaces and that there seems to be quite a gap between you. The most obvious solution to bridge this gap is to meet in the middle. Which essentially means that you must shift away from who you truly are, and they must do the same. Thus, you are now coming together as people you are not.

How long will that space be fulfilling?

Although I prefer not to use the term ‘level’ in a relationship (it implies superiority / inferiority), you may be in a higher space than your significant other. Meeting in the middle may then mean that you must come down a few clicks – which you would be able to do. They, however, would have to come up from the space they are currently in, into a world they have no experience in. (That may have taken you years to achieve.) How realistic would it be to expect them to be able to do that?

In order for you to communicate effectively, you would have to meet them where they are at and communicate in a manner that would be meaningful to their current space. If your journeys continue to evolve in different directions and the gap between your respective spaces increases, it may be increasingly less fulfilling, and more arduous, for you to do that.

To ensure you maintain a healthy, empowering, mutually fulfilling relationship you both must ensure that it is maintained as a priority. The core of your relationship is a sacred space and honoring this will provide that common ground for you to have meaningful interaction from. You are both distinct, individual human beings and, you both have a specific purpose to fulfill in this lifetime. The more you keep your relationship and your shared journey as a focal point, the more opportunities you will see to evolve together.

As always, prevention is better than cure. Being aware of the potential to grow differently can open you both to options to grow into your greatness, while maintaining your loving space. A true relationship ensures freedom for each to follow their hearts and grow naturally into your true selves. Any restriction is guaranteed to be toxic to your intimacy and fulfillment.

If you have realized that you and your partner have grown apart, then something obviously needs to shift. You are not going to give up being who you are just to appease them. And, you won’t expect them to make a quantum leap to attain the same space you hold. Open, loving communication will allow you both to share your hearts & desires and make the best decisions for your ongoing journey. Whether together or individually.

Now you are aware of the fallacy of meeting in the middle, there are additional options to explore to shift your journey & relationship to unfold in the most fulfilling way. My coaching & energy healing services will support you in all aspects of transforming your relationship.

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